“I moved to Dundee in 1972, about 13 years after my marriage. I was somewhere around 17-19 years old when I got married. In those days no one really kept track of age. After my marriage I lived with my Aunty and 2 children in India. My husband came to the UK for work. After 4 years working here he was then allowed to bring his family with him.
I couldn’t speak English when I came to Dundee. In India during that time many girls were not in Education. I only studied until a certain age. My parents thought we just needed to know how to write letters. It wasn’t expected in those days that we would have to work. When I moved to the UK, I did not make much effort to learn English. I didn’t need to work and spend most of my time at home so I did not feel the need to know how to speak English. However, over the years I realised that I want to go out of the house and speak to other people. I have picked up many words now by interacting with others. Even though I don’t speak the language fluently I can still understand when someone chats with me.
There are many things that I miss about India. I miss my family there, but I guess many people will feel the same way isn’t it? To me home is where my children are. I have been blessed with a very happy life with my children. My kids are well settled here so I am happy to be here. After all what would I do in India on my own?
I do go back to India often to visit my relatives. Sometimes I even go back twice a year so I don’t feel like I have much of an opportunity to miss them. There are many others who don’t get the chance to go back home and I can only imagine how hard it must be for them.
I have been coming to DIWC for around 5 years now. I like coming to the Bazorg group. I get the chance to meet everyone and have a good chat. It’s a nice atmosphere to be here and we are all happy. I enjoy being involved in the variety of activities provided for us from exercising to massaging and many more. It is a lot of fun”