This is S.K.’s story. Having moved to Dundee in the early 70s and unable to speak English, she settled into family life and not until later, as her children grew up, did she join the DIWC where she had the opportunity to make friends and get involved in the community.
Speaking English was a new experience for me
“I moved to Dundee in 1972, about 13 years after my marriage. I was somewhere around 17-19 years old when I got married – in those days no one really kept track of age. After my marriage, I lived with my Aunty and 2 children in India.
My husband came to the UK for work and after 4 years working there, he was then allowed to bring his family with him.
I couldn’t speak English when I came to Dundee. In India during that time, many girls were not in Education and I only studied until a certain age. My parents thought we just needed to know how to write letters as it wasn’t expected in those days that we would have to work.
When I moved to the UK, I did not make much effort to learn English. I didn’t need to work and spent most of my time at home so I did not feel the need to know how to speak English. However, over the years I realised that I wanted to go out of the house and speak to other people. I have since picked up many words by interacting with others. Even though I don’t speak the language fluently I can still understand when someone chats with me.
Missing India, but making a life for my family here in Dundee
There are many things that I miss about India. I miss my family there, but I guess many people would feel the same way? To me, home is where my children are and I have been blessed with a very happy life with my children. They are well settled here so I am happy to be here. After all, what would I do in India on my own?
I do go back to India often to visit my relatives. Sometimes I even go back twice a year so I don’t feel like I have much of an opportunity to miss them. There are many others who don’t get the chance to go back home and I can only imagine how hard it must be for them.
I have been coming to DIWC for around 5 years now. I like coming to the Bazorg group. I get the chance to meet everyone and have a good chat. It’s a nice atmosphere to be here and we are all happy. I enjoy being involved in the variety of activities provided for us from exercising to massaging and many more. It is a lot of fun”